Which of the following statements best describes your feelings and attitudes in relationships?
- I find it relatively easy to get close to others and I am comfortable depending on them and having them depend on me. I’m not particularly concerned about being abandoned, or about someone getting too close to me.
- I am somewhat uncomfortable being close to others; I find it difficult to trust them completely, and difficult to allow myself to depend on them. I am nervous when anyone gets too close, and often, love partners want me to be more intimate than I am generally comfortable being.
- I find that others are reluctant to get as close as I would like. I often worry that my partner might not really love me, or won’t want to stay with me long term. I like the idea of being able to merge completely with another person, and this desire sometimes scares people away.